Moving On...

 

 

To put it bluntly, my life was a huge, super-duper, massive, world biggest wooden rollercoaster!  It's so true and in order to believe me you would of have had to have been in my mind and shoes for every second for the past 50 years.  So, I suppose you will have to just believe me. You may ask how is that true, nobody could ever could go through so much, I guarantee you just read on...

 

 

This quote sums it all up for me.  My transformation didn't happen overnight for me.  It took million of steps to get to this point I am now in my life.  I have carried baggage with me for so long that I swear it's the reason I know how osteoarthritis and a bad back.

 

For my beloved friends who know me now wouldn't recognize me or probably even like me 20 or 30 years ago.  I was a totally different person.

 

Let out all the emotion you have been bottling up for years, this starts the beginning of your journey

I was self-absorbed, negative, lazy, wasn't a very good friend, held no confidence, lied, cheated and stole.  I lost friends and a husband.  I was false, put on that church going face when out, but doing just the opposite elsewhere. I was a drinker, loved my Kentucky whiskey.  I went to jail.  All of this and so much more.

 

I was a mother, of 3 beautiful children.  All of which have grown into the most successful, happy people I know.  They are my shining moment!  They are not my legacy, as they are there own individuals.  Oftentimes, built by hard times, difficult family times, hard work, struggling through it just like the rest of us.  But, they have glided through the storms of life with grace and humility and I am so proud of them!

 

Remember that quote "Take all the time you need to heal emotionally."  You must give yourself that time.  The first thing you must do is realize your a mess.

Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters!

Your life isn't productive to you or to others you love when you don't allow to give yourself that time to heal.  For me it took decades, but I had to be willing to say...."Wait a minute...Look at you!"  You must truthfully and finally look at yourself in the mirror and have a painful moment of realization.  You can't start those steps without this step.

 

The dark path you must first start on to find the rainbow at the end.

Once those steps are ready to be taken you need to make some concrete promises.  The number one is never go back to those ways, no matter what they may be. They might not be as severe as mine, but for you they are severe and that's all that matters.

 

So, you took the first step, guess what....now you got to walk the walk.  Sorry for the bad language, but it was appropriate.  Now let's go back to the profound statement "Moving on doesn't take a day."

 

BE POSITIVE

 

You must have good walking shoes, good health - let's step aside for a minute.  Good Health:  In order

to take on any quest in life you must have good health.  You need to take in your water (I still struggle with this), you need to get plenty of sleep (never a problem), you need to eat healthy and you need to exercise (I hate this part).  In my health book you also need some form of spirituality, a form of being grounded.  A realization that there is something greater and bigger than you on this universe.

 

In doing this you are letting go of control, which in turn (although seems minor, but it's actually huge) starts to release you from those chains that bind you.  You are taking control over your body.  If you can take control over your body, then you can take control over your mind.  Yes, you can!  I know you can, because......I did.  I'm not a perfect size 6 and I have medical conditions that challenge me, but overall I am healthy.  Be the best healthiest person you can be.

 



Ok, we got our body under control, now the most difficult challenge is our mind.  Don't believe everything your mind tells you.  It lies!  That is why we need spiritual guidance. It doesn't lie, it gives us hope and strength to carry on the path. 

 

Hope towards the end...Can you see it?

Isn't that what we need the most on our path....HOPE!  How can we "...take a lot of little steps to break free from your broken self."  How else can you make it without hope. Don't tell me you need support, because I'll laugh at you. No, no....this is something you must do yourself.  Your loved ones can be there for you, no doubt, but YOU have to do the WORK and don't let me fool you.....It's hard, lonely, painful work.

 

Is there light?  Of course, there's me.  I am your success story.  Let me be your example, even if you don't know me.  Ask me questions, let me be your support, your sponsor if you will.  Add me to your friends list on facebook and let me cheer you along your journey.  I have walked the walk, every little single step and I can recite you each and every step.

 

When I think of God I always thing of my grandson Gabe, who in the rainbow I see!

Be well my friend, and I challenge you to take this step in your life.  You need this now!  It can be done and I promise you a new, exciting life just waiting for you when those steps are done walking.

 

I am Debbie and I was here...